Marriage and Couples Counseling

Why fix something that is not broken?

Fixing a relationship with therapy doesn't necessarily mean it's broken, sometimes it's figuring out a bump in the road, reconnecting or plain maintenance!  Any long term relationship becomes tricky at times.  Couples Therapy can help you identify problems, promote positive communication, and develop more intimacy with your partner. 

Reasons to seek out Couples Therapy.

1) You keep having the same fight   

2) You blame your partner for your unhappiness

3) You're unhappy about your level of intimacy

4) You and your partner have experienced—or will experience—a major life change

5) You get more emotional support outside of your relationship than in it

6) You are adjusting to life with kids/without kids

7) Fear or event of unfaithfulness/trouble trusting your partner

8) You don't feel heard and/or supported

9) You and your partner can't compromise

10) You feel stuck/can't envision a positive future

How can Couples Therapy help your relationship?

1) See and feel events through your partner's eyes.  

This is called empathy.  When we are willing to understand and consider what someone else is going through or how they feel without judgment or fear, we are more likely to be compassionate with our partners. 

2) Learn positive communication skills.  

Appropriate communication helps couples express feelings and take accountability for their actions without putting their partner on the defensive.  

3) Strengthen your bond.

 Therapy for couples can provide a nice respite from your daily life and daily worries.  Setting aside a concentrated amount of time with someone to facilitate and encourage your growth as a couple can make you more connected, and more likely to make time for yourselves as a couple.

4) Renew your interest in your partner. 

During couples therapy, you will learn to communicate, solve problems and see the other person's point of view. You will also be learning new things about your partner, or you might even remember old things about your partner that you have forgotten.